Jill Victoria

This week certainly didn’t go as I had thought it would. Memorial Day morning, David’s maternal grandfather, Aubrey “Pop” Varner passed away. He had been going down hill since the day after David and I got engaged. We honestly thought he was going to die that night, but he made it another three months.

Pop was a great man. Even though I got the briefest of time with him (just over a year), I felt like I had another grandfather for a while. I have two of my grandparents left (on my mother’s side), but I lost my paternal grandparents at very young ages; my grandfather at age three and my grandmother at age 10. Having David’s grandparents in my life meant a lot to me. Still having his grandmother means a lot to me even now.

I felt like I lost a grandparent too. It really hit me that Pop was gone when I walked up next to his casket and for the first time since I’ve known him, he didn’t reach out his hand for mine.

This whole week has been emotionally draining. Wednesday was the viewing, first from 2:00 to 4:00, then another one from 6:00 to 8:00. Yesterday was the funeral, which I’m sure Pop would have loved. After Laurie (David’s aunt) read the eulogy she wrote, she invited others to stand up and tell stories about Pop. It was a great time and we all had laughs. Pop loved to tell a story. I don’t think I ever saw him without him talking. Everyone in the family agreed that Pop would have loved to hear everyone telling stories about him.

We laid Pop to rest up in Commerce, Georgia. He was buried close to his son, Terry, and his granddaughter, Emma. I’m going to really miss him.

As if I didn’t know it already, this past week proved even more to me that I am marrying into one of the best families in the world. I come from a family that is close and connected, and I always knew that I’d have to find someone whose family resembled my own. Finding a guy who values his family and actually knows his grandparents, his aunts, uncles, great-aunts and uncles and cousins is a hard thing to find these days. So many families are broken and distant. David’s family, both the Cole side and the Varner, are amazing families. You know that a family has come together when people from the Cole side were bringing food and attending the funeral for a family member on the Varner side. It really touched me to see that.

Now that Pop is laid to rest, David and I will be spending the rest of the week and on till Monday at Kris’ house while we dogsit. Obviously, I’m writing this from Kris’ computer. David is playing XBox live and Finn is begging for both of our attention. I swear, he could fetch a ball all day!

David and I will be going down to Fayetteville for dinner with David’s parents, John and Yoly and maybe GrandMom. I am so looking forward to getting at least a little bit back to normal.

I’m still doing pretty well with Mary Kay. I need $76 more dollars in sales to reach my goal for the month and to be able to get a $100 rebate. If anyone wants to purchase anything, let me know!

Hopefully I’ll reach my goal and have a good weekend. I’m still looking for another job and debating going to learn to be a nurse’s aid. I hear it’s a quick training and that they are in high demand right now.

I hope everyone else has a great weekend!

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