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Twenty-six years and counting…

No Comment // Written on Feb 07, 2010 // Birthdays, David, Friends & Family, Get Togethers, Life, Parties

I have to say, I have had an excellent 26 years of life!

Despite the hardships and trials, I’ve experienced a fabulous life. This past year of my life was the most life changing ever, for obvious reasons. It’s hard to believe that David and I got engaged on my 25th birthday and by my 26th we are husband and wife.

I had a great birthday! Though nothing could top an engagement ring as a birthday present, my gift this year came close. I received a Kindle from my dear husband… and myself! I love it and as an avid reader and gadget girl, this was the best of both worlds!

For my birthday David made me a strawberry cheesecake and a Key Lime pie! Both were very delicious! I visited my grandfather, who is now in a nursing home here in Fayetteville. He is at one of the best places around, and my new family full of doctors are close by and operating the facility. I know he’s in good hands there.

I went with David, brother (in-law) John, Emily, Jonathan, Chrispy and Mandy up to Chow Baby for my birthday dinner. Having eaten there on New Year’s Eve, I knew this was the best place for everyone attending my party. We all had a great time together. Good friends, good food, good conversation and lots of laughter!

I really am blessed to have such a wonderful family and group of friends. I feel very loved and appreciated!

Today David and I went to lunch with my parents and GranMar at Olive Garden as a belated birthday meal. David and I then went shopping so I could spend the birthday money burning a hole in my pocket.

We ended the afternoon with a new mattress! I have never been more excited about going to bed before in my life!

Overall, this has been an excellent birthday! Another one for the memory books…. with more to come!

Christmas traditions

No Comment // Written on Dec 04, 2009 // Blogging, David, Friends & Family, Future, Get Togethers, Holidays, Life, Past

Everyone has their traditions, especially around the holiday season.

My personal traditions with my family have always been special to me. Part of Christmas is participating in these traditions, and helping them grow.

Traditions have changed with the years. One tradition that we used to follow at Thanksgiving was taking a walk in the woods at my GranMar and GrandDaddy’s house after digesting. We’d also walk up the road to visit family friends. That tradition faded as it became harder for my grandparents to walk that far. I miss it.

During the Lighting of the Great Tree at the Macy’s in Atlanta, my family and I would also light our indoor tree and the outdoor one my dad would put up every year. That was the mark of Christmas beginning in my childhood.

An evolved tradition happens on Christmas Eve. Used to, GranMar would fix spaghetti and we’d all eat that on Christmas Eve. Then we’d watch The Grinch on TV and open gifts from each other. Santa would bring more to open in the morning.

Now we all go with other family members up to The Varsity in Atlanta on Christmas Eve to eat there. We meet and will give gifts to those we won’t see again for a few months. It’s a fun tradition. In fact, I can’t go to The Varsity during the year without thinking of Christmas Eve.

Other traditions I hold dear for the holidays is decorating the house, my GranMar’s elf hiding game (she has five little elves that she displays somewhere silly every year. we all compete to find them), visiting Santa Claus, watching A Muppet Christmas Carol (my personal tradition I started) on Christmas Eve, driving to see people’s Christmas lights displayed, opening gifts on Christmas Eve from each other, and Santa coming on Christmas morning.

One of my favorite long-standing traditions is tomorrow: the McDonough Christmas parade. My family has gone every year in my memory, along with my godparents and their sons. We bring food (usually pizza and chicken tenders) and watch the parade. My dad will actually be participating in it this year, marching with his Marine Corp League.

Now I’m married and have new traditions to start and to participate in. Both of David’s sides of the family do the “white elephant” type gift exchanges. Except they actually bring gifts people want and fight for!

It’s these things that really bring a special meaning to Christmas for me. I look forward to these little events every year, and I bask in the warm fuzzies they give me. Now I’m a new member of a family, and David as well. My brother Matthew also brought a new member along in Susan. I can’t wait for Matthew and Susan, as well as David and I, to start our own traditions, and to carry them over to our children one day!

What are your Christmas traditions?

Dear Santa…

9 Comments // Written on Dec 01, 2009 // David, Friends & Family, Get Togethers, Holidays, Life, Marriage

It’s that time of year again! Christmas time is upon us and I’m very excited to spend my first Christmas as a wife in my new family!!

I have always either written to Santa or told him while on his lap what I wanted for Christmas. I’m pretty sure that Santa has internet access up at the North Pole, so I decided to spare him some leg pain and write on my blog what I’d like this year:

*Disclaimer*
It’s just a wish list. Doesn’t mean I expect it all!*

Dear Santa,

I’ve been pretty good this year, plus I got married and took on a whole new role in life! I have a very sweet and wonderful husband that God set up for me. I’m sure you and He are pretty tight, so you knew that.

What I’d like this year for Christmas, if you can swing it, is:

* A Coach purse. I like this one in particular at Macy’s.

* More of these comfy Pure Beech Sateen Sheet sets in Butter, Taupe and Fern. Even one set would be great!

* An iPod touch 8GB.

* One or two of these storage ottomans.

* Gift cards to Dots, Lowes and Target.

* This nice, simple end table.

* Measuring spoons, cups and new tongs for my kitchen.

* Pandora charms.

* Flameless candles of various sizes.

* This red toss pillow.

* Some nice decorations for the house.

* Two 6×9 photo frames.

* Angels and Demons on DVD

* Dexter Seasons on DVD

* Clips for keeping food items, like bread or other opened food packages, closed

* A garlic press

* Anything left on the wedding registry

That’s all I have on my wish list. It’s just a list of wants, not demands. I’d be happy spending Christmas with my husband and families and friends. The one and only thing I want most of all is my family and friends safe and happy, especially my brother Matthew. He’s about to go to Iraq for a year. He’ll leave two days after Christmas. I’m glad I’ll have him here this year.

Merry Christmas, Santa!

Love,
Jill

P.S. I’ve had a change of address. I’m sure you can find it. We have two fireplaces to choose from :)

Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving.

No Comment // Written on Nov 26, 2009 // Blogging, David, Friends & Family, Get Togethers, God, Holidays, Life, Marriage

It’s my first Thanksgiving as a wife and official part of David’s family, and him part of mine. That in itself is reason enough to give thanks.

The first part of the day was spent at my grandparents’ house with my parents, Aunt Donna and my grandmother’s first cousin. My brother Matthew and his wife Susan left at 6:00 this morning for Texas to visit Susan’s family.

David and I ate well and visited with my family. We had to eat and run (which is better than staying to eat again, as my GranMar says) to make it to round two at my in-law’s house. My mother-in-law’s side of the family is all present at the house right now, which is fun. There are a lot of people around my age here, so the atmosphere is light and fun.

I am pleasantly full and very glad to count my blessings as I sit with family. God has given me many things in my life. I have a husband who loves me with a selfless and unconditional love, family who also loves and supports me and my husband, wonderful friends, a house and all my wants and needs met.

I also live in a country that gives me freedoms. I may not agree with the people in charge of our government right now, but I’m thankful for the men and women brave enough to found this country and for the men and women who are brave enough now to defend it. We as Americans take a lot for granted, including even the freedom to write and read blogs like mine.

I’m very thankful for the wedding I just had. Looking at pictures from that day with not sides of the family made me once again so happy that David and I had the most perfect wedding we could have hoped for! I first entered the Hazlehurst House when I was 14 and knew then I wanted to get married there I never thought it would happen, especially as perfect and wonderful and memorable as it was. I’d be happy marrying David in a gutter, but marrying him in the lovely setting we had made the day seem complete.

When I reflect on all my life holds and will bring, I can’t help but to feel my heart fill up with love and happiness. I love my life and all the people, experiences, memories and things it has brought me!

I should also note that I’m extremely thankful that both sides of my family are sane and don’t hold Jerry Springer worthy throw downs on holidays. Or any day.

Thanksgiving

No Comment // Written on Nov 26, 2009 // David, Friends & Family, Future, Get Togethers, God, Holidays, Life, Marriage, Weddings

I realized that the blog I wrote yesterday didn’t post for some reason. Instead of going back and trying to recreate it, I will just make this post instead.

I tend to take a lot for granted in life. This past year has really taught me differently. I have been given a lot of blessings in just the past few months, and I definitely have plenty to be thankful for.

The greatest thing I am thankful for is my family. I’ve been blessed to grow my family by leaps and bounds this year! Marrying David has doubled the size of those I call kin.

I consider myself very lucky, blessed and thankful for everyone you see in that picture, and for those who aren’t in it. Family is one of the best things a person can be a part of, if that family is a God centered one. Thankfully, that’s what my family is.

I’m so grateful to have people who support and love me, and who I am able to give my love and support to in return. Being part of a family like mine and a family like David’s is a true blessing. All my life I knew that I’d have to find a man to marry who was as focused and involved with his family as I am with mine. It’s hard to find people these days who are interested in their families, and not searching for the nearest exit when it comes to family get-togethers.

Not only did my family grow with marrying David, but I also gained a sister-in-law and another soon-to-be sister-in-law! Times are so exciting! My brother got married just a little over a month after I did and my brother-in-law will get married in July of next year. More people to add to this family, and who are also involved with family life.

God has definitely been good to me.

Married life

No Comment // Written on Oct 22, 2009 // Blogging, David, Friends & Family, Get Togethers, Life, Relationships

People keep asking me, “How is married life?”. Well, I’m never sure what to tell them. David and I have only been married 12 days, and I don’t think that is a long enough period of time to assess married life.

Of course married life is good. So far we have been on a honeymoon and settling into a routine. We also have been organizing our house and unpacking my stuff. Sometimes that seems like such an overwhelming task I just want to throw up my hands in frustration.

David and I have made a few “married friends” plans with other couples, such as Krista and Spencer, and Lauren and Carlos. I’m curious to see what these married couple plans are like. Though I don’t see how they would be different than plans I made as a single girl, or even an in a relationship or engaged girl.

I always swore I wouldn’t be like a few couples I know. As soon as they got married, they seemed to cut off their friends. The one phrase I’d hear most from these particular couples is: “You don’t understand, you’re not married”. I promise, my level of understanding anything about life, love and bills hasn’t increased because of a ring on my finger and a change in last names. I’m not sure what there is to understand as a married woman that a single person wouldn’t understand.

Maybe I need to be married longer. But I swear that I will never treat my un-married friends like they’re stupid, or somehow less important now.

Married life. Its good stuff. The “perks” are great ::wink wink:: ::nudge nudge::

Mr. & Mrs. David and Jill Cole

3 Comments // Written on Oct 10, 2009 // Blogging, David, Engagement, Friends & Family, Future, Get Togethers, God, Life, Parties, Relationships, Travel, Weddings

I wanted to write about our wedding day while its still fresh in my mind.

The day was PERFECT! That 60 – 80% chance of rain that haunted us for almost two weeks never even happened! How awesome is God for doing that?! I want to thank everyone who prayed for the gorgeous weather we had for the whole day.

David and I couldn’t have been happier! Everything was beyond what we could have ever hoped for and more than we deserve. All that we planned went exactly as we wanted. I successfully avoided David seeing me (Though I accidentally saw him out of the bridal suite window. Oops!) and we both got the moment we hoped for as I walked down the aisle. David told me that when he saw me that it was like his heart sped up and stopped at the same time. I knew exactly how he felt.

It was so great to see all the people we did. I scanned the faces as my dad walked me down the aisle (”Moon River by 101 Strings Orchestra, composed by Johnny Mercer) and couldn’t help but have my heart swell with so much love that I literally felt my skin tingle.

I wish I knew how to describe what the moment felt like when I reached David. Everything in my life, the good, the bad, the wise choices and the not so wise choices all fell into place. My dad gave me away on behalf of himself and my mom, and they left me in very safe and loving hands.

Rick Statham, the pastor, did a wonderful job. He didn’t over embellish love by reading Song of Solomon or 1 Corinthians 13, but talked of how David and I are to yield to each other and work as a partnership. If we both live for each other and for God, then we are living in a Christian marriage.

David was so sweet. I knew he was nervous because he was shaking as we held hands and said our vows. During the last prayer, before we kissed our first husband and wife kiss, David started to make what I call his “happy noises”. He basically sighs very content and happy sighs. I knew he was totally overjoyed that we were finally married.

My Aunt Donna served as our MC instead of the DJ. She did a great job. She announced us as we came in and went into our first dance (”At Last” by Etta James). My dad and I had our father/daughter dance (”True Love Waits” by Buddy Holly, which has been stuck in my head all day) and David and Ms. Deb danced their mother/son (”Life Story” by Grant Wilson).

The food was great. Marmalade chicken, roasted potatoes, and green beans. Our wedding cake was strawberry short cake and was delicious!

There was lots of dancing. I danced with Matthew, Emily, Lauren and kinda with Jonathan.

I wish we had more time at the reception. It was a great send off though. David and I walked out in a cascade of tiny bubbles and were driven off in a Model A classic car! I had always imagined leaving in a classic car, but never thought it would happen.

All my girls looked so beautiful. They were a great help and I was so honored they were able to be a part of the day. The groomsmen were handsome as well, especially my brother in his Army dress uniform. I thought my mom looked beautiful in her red dress, and Ms. Deb was lovely in hers as well.

David and I made it safely to the beach condo. I can’t believe I’m laying next to my husband! Its such a sweet yet still foreign word, but I love saying it!

I can’t wait to see pictures from today. Its hard to realize that today is still my wedding day. It was like two days wrapped in one. Though most brides have told me that they didn’t have time to enjoy anything, David and I can both safely say that we enjoyed and savored every second. We had the best day of our lives!

I’m sending out lots of love to our families and our friends. You all made this day very special and we were so blessed to have you as part of our wedding day.

And thus ends my wedding day and my first blog as Mrs. Jill Cole! <3

Stress is nothing more than a socially acceptable form of mental illness

2 Comments // Written on Aug 30, 2009 // Babies, David, Engagement, Friends & Family, Get Togethers, Life, Weddings

I’m beginning to feel like I do have a mental illness.

I am seriously so stressed lately that I can literally not see straight. At first I thought it was just my eyes not being used to the contacts, but I’ve noticed that if I can for just a short time not feel stressed, I see better. This lets me know right away that my blood pressure is sky high lately.

Not. Good.

It’s now 40 days away from the wedding. Things are getting down to the details, the nitty-gritty, the little things that you either put off or didn’t think about till now.

Right now I’m dealing with full-time school, watching two kids and trying to be a teacher to them, planning the little details, answering questions that I don’t have answers to about the wedding, packing up my whole life, moving, cleaning out the Fayetteville house and wondering where the money I need is.

On top of the high blood pressure, I’m having digestive issues. I either don’t want to eat, or when I do I end up making several painful trips to the bathroom later. Not pretty, but it’s life right now.

I hate that stress is getting in the way of me enjoying this time. I’m very glad that my shower Saturday was low key and only had seven people at it. It was just me and some close girl friends; eating sweets, drinking wine and chatting. I honestly needed that after the week I had been having. Emily gave a toast for me that made me want to cry. I wish I had. Maybe that would have been the exact reaction to let her know how deeply it touched me.

And it’s little things right now that are really adding to the stress. What would be funny to me, or at least not bother me usually, is now like fingernails on a chalk board. I’ve gotten some smart ass, jesting comments on a lot of my Facebook statuses that I usually wouldn’t care about. I especially wouldn’t usually care because I can be a smart ass when I’m joking too. But right now, those comments mixed with everything else have worked on my already shot nerves. I know it’s not fair to the person doing it, but I wish they’d just lay off for a while. It’s not helping me at all.

I’m hoping and praying that this is a short lived period of stress. Did I mention my hair is also coming out? Yeah, it is.

Hopefully when all the minor details are handled and the moving/cleaning is done, I’ll be back to normal. I’m not the type to stress easily. In fact, I usually do better when I have a lot going on. It keeps me occupied and feeling useful.

At least I know this will all be worth it. Whenever I think of how many days are left till I’m David’s wife, I get shivers of excitement! So close, yet so far away. Pray for me, please. I need to relief and I need a new job that will pay me more than what I get right now!

Yeah, I’m stressed. But I’ll make it through this.

It’s worth it. And my hair will grow back eventually.

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At least on a happier note, my friend Laura gave birth to her first child today. A healthy, beautiful baby girl named Bevanne Giselle Storey. Both mom, baby and daddy are doing fine after a c-section today. If anyone else is under major stress (aside from Krista, Kris, Emily and every other female I know!), it has to be Laura!

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Putting aside childish things

3 Comments // Written on Jul 21, 2009 // Blogging, Campmeeting, Friends & Family, Future, Get Togethers, Life, Past

I used to love night at the campground. When I was a teen, that’s when I’d find others around my age and we would wander the grounds. We would sit in the darkened tabernacle or take a stroll to the spring. I got my second kiss at the campground in the folds of an old oak tree.

I’m watching kids the age I’m describing me as doing just as I did so long ago. Long ago? Was it really just a dozen or so years ago that I was out there? Now I sit on the porch, rocking in the chairs with the adults.

I’m honestly trying to bridge the gap in my mind between now and then. This is just one more of those times when I really start to feel like I’m older. As if the whole work, bills, college and getting married wasn’t enough to make me feel like my age.

It was Roll Call tonight at service. I got to stand up and represent 25 years of both my life and my attendance at Shingleroof Campmeeting. I just don’t feel 25 at times. Sometimes I wish I didn’t have the responsibilities of a 25 year old. But, those are the realities. I’ve put aside childish things.

And honestly, I don’t miss them all that much.

Shingleroof Campmeeting: an explanation and history

1 Comment // Written on Jul 13, 2009 // Campmeeting, Friends & Family, Get Togethers, God, Life, Past, Uncategorized, Vacations

As I have mentioned before in this blog, Shingleroof Campmeeting starts this coming Friday, July 17th. It is an annual tradition in my family to take seven days out of our lives (along with a couple hundred other people) and make our pilgrimage to Shingleroof Campground in McDonough, Ga. For some, it’s a long trip. For people like me and lot of my local relatives in and around McDonough, it’s nothing but a short drive down the road. As of right now, I still live just five short miles away from a place that makes me feel a million miles removed from the everyday life.

Shingleroof Campground was founded in 1831 on land deeded to the Methodist Church in McDonough, GA from the Creek tribe. At that time, McDonough was only ten years old and Shingleroof was located in a wilderness no more than 30 miles from Indian Territory.

The roots of Campmeeting lay deep in the history of the Judeo-Christian religion. Campmeetings around the country are patterned closely on the ancient Jewish Holy Week of Sukot; also known as the Feast of Tabernacles and the Feast of Booths. Sukot was established by God, speaking to Moses on Mount Sinai, when He instructed the Jewish people in Leviticus 23:41-42, “Celebrate this as a festival to the LORD for seven days each year. This is to be a lasting ordinance for the generations to come; celebrate it in the seventh month. Live in booths for seven days”

On April 12th, 1861, just nine days after Fort Sumter was fired upon (beginning the Civil War, or as my grandmother calls it: The War of Northern Aggression), volunteers started to gather in Henry County and Shingleroof Campground was their rallying point. It also became their training ground.

Now you have a brief, highlighted history of Shingleroof.

My cousin, Nancy Paul Miller, (who lives across the dirt road from me) wrote a paper on Shingleroof Campmeeting while she was a student back in 1994 at the College of St. Francis. She wrote a piece in that paper I would like to share with you here to sum up Campmeeting for you:

Vacation is a precious time. People ask what I am going to do on my vacation. I tell them I am going to Shingleroof Campground in McDonough, GA. There is no air conditioning, no TV’s, no VCR’s nor computers. Some children bring their small electronic games, but usually do not play with them unless it is raining and they don’t want to go out and play in the rain and puddles with the rest. Campmeeting is a kind of time out week, different from all the other weeks and holidays because my mind and living are slowed down and far away from so many of the noisy and busy distractions and demands of the late 20th century life. The porch is a special place at each tent. We watch the children and adults play. We see the water balloon battles, the making of mud pies, volleyball, softball games, and those who dare may swing on a rope swing with a plank for a seat. Children from all over the campground stand in line to swing up into the tree leaves. On the porch, we shell peas and string beans. Visitors walk from porch to porch joining in on the shelling and story telling. There may be ten to twenty or more living in one tent with one bathroom and shower. The bedrooms have two double beds so there may be six in a room. There is a hotel that was built this year without having to borrow money, but by donations and memorials. The hotel is used for reunions during the year and groups come during campmeeting to eat before or after services. It only has two rooms now for guests to spend the night. They may add more if needed. So what brings us to campmeeting? I feel it’s the ’spirit of competing’ and kinship. The religious services, the openness of the services, being out of doors, gives us the feeling of being in God’s presence. Being in a place special to our ancestors. Kinship is very important. We go our separate ways during the year, rarely seeing some, but for that one week we become close again and feel it helps us stay close though we are far apart. We learn of our heritage from stories passed down from the older generations. Those we never met we feel we know.

You did read right. Every year I spend a week of my life in a tent (read: cabin) that is made of rough cut boards, has a tin roof, the walls don’t join the ceiling (as there is none; just a view of the tin separating your and the rain). The tent boasts four bedrooms, three of which have two full beds that are wall to wall which can sleep up to six people comfortably… more if you’re throwing children in.

Having wall to wall beds makes steam rolling (the act of rolling over people laying in the bed, usually to wake them up) easier.

We have one toilet and one shower. This year we will have about 24 people staying at the tent daily and even more people coming for meals and to sit, rock and visit on the front porch and go to the two services offered daily.

Campmeeting will officially begin at 7:30 Friday night when the first church service in the tabernacle begins. Every day after that till the following Thursday there will be two church services held in the tabernacle. The building is an open walled church and is packed for every service offered. People bring their lawn chairs to sit outside the structure and listen to the pastor preach.

This will be my 26th annual Campmeeting. I prefer to count my time in my mom’s womb as a year at the campground. I’m sure that’s when it settled into my blood to begin with.

A lot of the tents at Shingleroof are more “primitive” than my family’s. They have sawdust floors and resemble more of a stable setting on the inside than a place to live. Some of the newer tents have air conditioning, but the majority of the buildings are still only cooled by ceiling fans. They’re life savers in the July Georgia heat.

My family has been tenting at Shingleroof for generations. The tent we occupy now was built for my great-grandmother, Dovie Bryans Elliott, by my grandmother and great-aunts. It was an upgrade from then tent my family used to have. A fire that destroyed on side of the Campground took their tent with it. My great-uncle is suspected of starting the fire with one of his cigars. Accidentally, of course.

Shingleroof Campground and the campmeeting that takes place there is dear to my heart. I love seeing my cousins (because nearly everyone who attends is related to me) for that time and feeling like I’m completely removed from the “real world”. Even cell phones have a hard time functioning at the campground. It’s almost as if you’re in a time warp and Shingleroof is sucking you in.

Honestly, Campmeeting is something you either love or hate. I find it hard to believe that anyone can hate the place. Yes, it’s hot and humid and you sweat a lot and are never properly clean. And yes, you also go to church twice a day and sweat there too. But you also have you Fs: Family, Friends, Fellowship, Food, Fun and Faithfulness. To me, you can’t beat that. All the discomforts bring you out of your own comfort zone and into a place that really does revive you. After all, that’s what you’re there to do; be revived.

Come if you like. Shingleroof is located at the intersection of Campground Road and Highway 155 in McDonough, GA. it will start at 7:30 Friday, July 17th and run till Thursday, July 23rd.

Come dip your toes in the spring, experience that “ol’ time religion”, swing on the rope swing, rock on the front porch, hear the blue hairs tell their stories, and get some sawdust under your toenails. Once it hits the blood stream, you’re hooked.

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